James lives with his wife and children in Khayelitsha, South Africa. He struggles to understand the lifelong bullying behaviours of his father, who abused him and his mother for years.

James realises that times have changed drastically in the wake of apartheid, and regrets that his father, who lives alone on the outskirts of a remote village, hasn’t been able or inspired to change with them.

Key points to consider in viewing James’ story

Masculinity is undergoing a profound transformation in South Africa. James’ story about his abusive father reveals the necessity for new approaches to what it means “to be a man” and shows the tragic consequences of those who are unable to adapt to changing times. As you watch the story, which highlights the subtleties of men’s control tactics, we encourage you to reflect on how difficult change can be.

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Sonke works with many communities to use storytelling and digital media to help people tell their own stories around gender, violence, HIV and AIDS and related issues.

Sonke partnered with Silence Speaks to enable young people and adults affected by violence and HIV and AIDS to share their stories. Other digital stories have been produced with former prisoners who experienced sexual violence in jail. And the MenEngage African Youth Alliance and Sonke partnered with UNFPA to produce “Youth Stories of Change” along with a discussion guide and other resources.

Through intensive, participatory video production workshops, Sonke is bringing rarely-heard voices and images into the civic arena. Our hope is that by highlighting everyday stories, we will deepen existing conversations about gender norms and health issues, as well as empower the storytellers and their communities.

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Click here to download a facilitator’s guide, discussion guides and other Digital Stories resources to assist in the use of these tools in your community.