Studies globally show that men are likely to be perpetrators in reported cases of intimate partner violence and sexual violence.
Physical violence, sexual violence, psychological abuse, economic abuse, cultural or harmful Practices and digital abuse are common examples of violence that males perpetrate.
When it comes to combating gender-based violence and femicide, men can be crucial allies. Only when men actively confront toxic norms, examine their own actions, and make a commitment to promoting equitable communities can there be transformative change while also challenging damaging gender norms. Men may advocate for change and elevate the voices of survivors by using their privileged positions. These actions demonstrates that gender-based violence and femicide is a social issue that calls for coordinated action rather than just a “women’s issue.”
Historically, men have been known to often resorted to violence as a means of conflict resolution. To unlearn these harmful behaviors, psychological interventions are essential to address the root causes of violent actions and prevent their recurrence. By embracing vulnerability, emotional awareness, and respect, male may redefine what it means to “be a man.”
This ultimately promotes healthier relationships and lessens the stigma associated with men and boys seeking assistance. Male role models, such as fathers, coaches, teachers, or local leaders, are frequently admired by boys. From an early age, these role models can impart principles of equality and non-violence through initiatives such as mentorship programs that teach equality, empathy, and consent to boys. This includes talking to them about gender-based violence and what healthy relationships look like. This way, we can ensure that next generation of men and boys, do not perpetuate and continue the circle of violence.
In 2009, ‘’Commit, Act, Demand: We Can End Violence Against Women’’, was the theme for 16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence campaign. It was during this time that Saselani Men’s Forum, Sonke Gender Justice, We Care Foundation, and Civil Society Forum collaborated on the first ever Men’s Conference, which brought together government representatives, politicians, civil society organizations, and the media. Efforts of this gathering being to raise awareness on gender roles, positive masculinity, men’s sexual and mental health, gender-based violence and femicide, and economic empowerment, among other issues.
By sharing knowledge, this platform helps men understand the causes and characteristics of GBVF, which is a crucial component of prevention. We believe after such interventions; men will be able to recognize how violence and injustice are sustained by toxic masculinity and become active bystanders in incidents of violence.
It is time men set the agenda to end GBVF. Men who work together to combat GBVF not only aid in the overthrow of patriarchal structures but also in the creation of a just and respectful society. For us to accomplish the revolutionary transformation we seek, this allyship is essential.
Written by Donald Khoza and Colby Masinga, Saselani Men’s Forum and We Care Foundation SA – Sonke Gender Justice’s Inkanyezi Project male allies
